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...I feel so much better now.

It's all gone, like someone stopped pounding me in the head with a hammer. I didn't even know the hammer was there. Why did I let someone pound me in a hammer all that time? What in hell was I thinking? Why did I think any of that made sense?

Once you're out of the system, it makes no sense at all. None of the carrots they dangled before you mean anything, and you start to truly comprehend just how much stress you were under. You see things you never would have believed while you were in the system. And the relief is greater than you ever could have imagined while you were enmeshed.

From How to keep someone with you forever by Issendai

The worst part of these systems, I think, is that you can fall into them over and over again. It's the same reason you don't remember how much falling and breaking your arm hurt when you were 8. You'd never get on a bike again if you did.


Date: 2010-06-22 11:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I read that awhile back. Some of it, I recognized from my Barnes & Noble days, but I truly believe that successful retail businesses must in some way incorporate some of that dysfunction. I also see elements of that dysfunction in teaching. Teachers are asked to give up a huge portion of their time, completely unpaid, to further the goals of the school/community, and are then chastised, blamed, and put down when, despite semi-heroic efforts, some students still fail. The sad thing is, most good teachers are in teaching because of a need to help and heal and it just beats them down because they have few support systems, while most bad teachers just don't care. :-(

Date: 2010-06-22 11:32 pm (UTC)
ext_7899: the tenth doctor stands alone (HR = emotional masochism: Toby (TO US))
From: [identity profile]
Not just retail. All corporate entities do it in some ways.

Date: 2010-06-23 05:23 am (UTC)
ext_3673: Manny, from black books (Default)
From: [identity profile]
Never mind that, guess what? Some kids fail because they should have been held back a year because they weren't old enough to understand these things and some because their parents, week after week, even after you keep telling them to, won't help the kids with their homework, won't set aside time for reading to/with the kids, will ignore those things. And some kids just will not work, no matter how many times you keep them in and so on.

Date: 2010-06-22 11:21 pm (UTC)
othersideofthis: (Default)
From: [personal profile] othersideofthis
Thank you for the link. It resonates with me on a whole lot of different levels, right about now.

Date: 2010-06-23 12:22 am (UTC)
ext_14294: A redhead an a couple of cats. (Default)
From: [identity profile]
I read that a while ago too. I definitely recognised it. And then felt really lucky I'm not there anymore.

Date: 2010-06-23 12:38 am (UTC)
meredevachon: (mack reilly)
From: [personal profile] meredevachon
Knowing all of this and reading all of this are two entirely different things. Thanks for the linkage. ♥

Date: 2010-06-23 10:06 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Just put it in my journal. Just wow.


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